Seeing that Oliver is in the stage of touching and exploring, Edward is getting more and more possessive of the toys in the house (which, obviously, he thinks is his alone as he has been the only one playing with those toys… up until now).
We have serious sharing problems in our house right now. Oliver will sometimes head straight to a particular toy (crawling as fast as he can…) and once he gets hold of it, Edward would say “no! no! no no no!” and snatches the toy out of poor Oliver’s hand (or sometimes, mouth)…
Mummy tells Edward not to snatch. Gives Oliver another toy.
Edward goes “no no no no!” again…
The cycle goes on and on..
I’m very clueless on how to deal with this. I understand that Edward, being 2 years and 2 months old, is just in the right stage for being possessive of his belongings.
This is what i’ve found in dealing with this problem, after doing some research online:
1. Prevent problems ==> Let each child have enough toys for themselves (at the same time). But this is tough as seeing Edward would stop whatever he is doing to snatch from Oliver.
2. Never, ever pry a toy out of your child’s hands ==> You’ll only be teaching him that snatching, forcefully taking something from someone IS OKAY.
3. Let the older sibling have his “special” toy in which he chooses. ==> Allow the elder child to have sole ownership of some of the toys he treasures. It is only understandable that we can’t share EVERYTHING with others.
4. Once a conflict arises, tell the elder child you understand why he’s upset: “You get so mad when your brother wants to play with your toys. It’s hard to share.” Next, help him empathize with his brother: “He just wants to explore and play with you. He’s interested in what you’re doing and doesn’t mean to make you mad.” Feeling understood and being able to put themselves in others’ shoes help children move on to the third step — finding solutions.