What constitutes being a good parent? [part 3] – Change to smaller shoes!

Put yourself in your little one’s shoes

This is to say you should try your best to see or experience something from your child’s point of view. Many times we forget what it’s like being a child. We get too caught up in the business of the adult’s world. We have little memory of how it feels like as a child to be in certain situations or to be treated in certain ways by our parents.

When children feel understood, they are more likely to listen to you and cooperate. They like their views to be respected, just as we do. Of course there are times when we can’t give in to every child’s whim, but if we do show that we can feel what they feel most of the time, they will be very happy children. Proud to have parents who care.

Do you remember lying on your bed in your own room and having a sudden urge to climb onto your parents bed and snuggle with them? Kids these days still feel the same. So be understanding. Just let your child sleep with you for that night. He might have had a bad dream. He might be thinking about you and fear losing you. It doesn’t happen everyday.

Have you ever experienced not having a parent attend something important to you, like a play? If you have, you know how it felt. If you really can’t make it, make it up to your child by having a special day out together afterwards 🙂

If a zookeeper tells you it’s okay to pat his crocodile, saying that he has taught his crocodile well. Will you be able to overcome your fear and pat that crocodile? I suppose not many of you would dare to even get close. Fear is real. Fear stems from our judgement. We know that crocodiles can be fierce and deadly if it decides to attack. Similarly, children fear certain things. To the best of their knowledge, that particular thing is scary. Because what they know and what we know are not the same, we shall not belittle their genuine fear. It may seem nothing to us, but it’s everything to them. To the zookeeper, the crocodile is not scary, to us, it still is. Don’t force your child to overcome his fear too soon. Give him time. With better knowledge, he will understand that he need not fear that particular thing.

This is only my thoughts on parenting. I don’t mean to say everyone needs to agree =) hope you have enjoyed my post!

Here’s part 1part 2 of this sequel.


About Lili

Lili is a wife and a mum to 3 boys. An aspiring writer. Adores creativity, art and beautiful creations. Dog lover. Gentle-parenting follower. Follow her parenting journey at www.happywehappyfamily.com where she writes about family happiness and how to stay connected to our spouse and kids.
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