Be a Great Listener
“Listening is the key to great communication with your child. It is the basis of a strong relationship. If you listen to them when they are young, they will be much more inclined to want you to listen to them as they grow older and face the challenges of their teenage years.” – from the book: Top 20 Parents, Raising Happy, responsible & emotionally healthy children.
This post is 1 day late! Too busy with my darling baby boys!
We are often too busy with thoughts in our own head. Sometimes they are thoughts about the family, work, situations, rent etc. Sometimes they are thoughts of our children. But because we are too busy thinking of how to be a better parent, we forget to actually LISTEN to what the children are saying. What they have to tell us may be more important than what we think we should be doing for them.
To me, listening to our children can include listening to what they have to say, observing their gesture, their mood for the day, etc. It’s about taking time to know and understand your child as a human being, going through age-appropriate developments, behaviour and judgement.
When we listen, children can feel that we care. They feel that they are important to us enough that we are ready to hear what they have to say. It’s good to give such high self-esteem to them. These kind of positive (or thereby, negative) feelings about themselves start right here within their tiny family.
If we listen well enough. Like I said, by observing the child as well as by listening to him. We may be able to detect what is going on in their lives at the moment or in that period of time. This is especially helpful if the child is having a hard day or a bad week. At least we know that we should avoid to add on to his down period. It could help prevent arguments or just plain misunderstandings.
I am learning to be a great listener. In the process…
And I hope to become an expert in listening one day.
These are my thoughts. I am not saying that I think it is the right way for every parent out there to follow.
Here’s Part 1 to this sequel.