Bigger family

Edward is 21 months old now. I haven’t been writing here for months! And we have a new member who is already 2 months old! Our dear Oliver!

Lessons learnt so far from having 2 children close in age:

– the elder brother bears the loneliness while mummy attends to her newborn
– the younger one will not get as much attention from mummy as the elder one did at the same age
– help is a necessity not luxury
– sleep when your newborn is asleep? No way when u have a toddler to take care of and play with
– the 2 children still have different schedules, so it’s tough here everyday
– elder brother loves younger brother 🙂
– both children can each get all your love, but each child can’t get all of your time 😦
– time with husband drops drastically
– multitasking is the only way to feel satisfied with achieving my goals, even then I can’t get everything I want done
– time to read? Haven’t touched a book since Oliver was born. Will try to resume reading soon.
– when the elder child can self-feed, it’s a bonus for you.
– when the newborn is colicky, it’s bad news for the elder brother.
– bath time is the time I feel that Edward is happy to play alone and making me feel less guilty in not being able to play with him. (he’s never out of my sight) so I let him be in the bath for as long as he wishes to while I attend to Oliver.

The list will grow as time passes 🙂 and hopefully there will be more positive lessons to share!

About Lili

Lili is a wife and a mum to 3 boys. Follow her parenting journey at where she writes about family happiness and how to stay connected to our spouse and kids. Additionally, she's passionate in helping kids achieve financial literacy at
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