The Father’s Crucial Role

It takes more than occasional outings to the baseball game, the amusement park, and the zoo to make a real difference to kids [… ] Family life is “not only about providing for their families’ material needs. It’s about being there on a daily basis providing for the never-ending, ever-changing, day-to-day physical and emotional needs as well.” – Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman & Joan Declaire.

Edward is lucky to have a very loving and involved father. I can’t help but feel very pleased with how much love my husband has for our child. And let me tell you, it makes a difference to have a father like him. My son is a contented little toddler.

Many men nowadays still believe that their priority is in earning for the family. To them, spending constant quality time with their family comes second. They feel that if they could not achieve the financial goal they have set for themselves, they are a failure. Little do they know that losing touch with their family is the true failure. How I wish I could convey this message to them.

The more number of people babies and toddlers are exposed to (in a loving and caring environment), the more they benefit. Different adults communicate and play with babies in different ways. Being stuck with the same caretaker (e.g. mum, nanny) the whole day will only give the child an exposure to one type of environment and therefore, one type of fun and learning. Thereby setting limits to their emotional and physical developments.

If you know a father who spends very limited time with his children, please encourage him to take more part in his children’s lives. Let him know the benefits he can bring to his children. If you are a father, keep on giving the love!

Children need fathers as well as mothers. If not, god would have just let women conceive without the need to find a man to be part of it. Guys, be part of it from the beginning till the end. Don’t let your efforts fade along the way. What children need most when they are still children is your presence, not the money you plan to pay for their education when they grow up. That comes later.


About Lili

Lili is a wife and a mum to 3 boys. An aspiring writer. Adores creativity, art and beautiful creations. Dog lover. Gentle-parenting follower. Follow her parenting journey at where she writes about family happiness and how to stay connected to our spouse and kids.
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